Overview

I am writing this because I felt the same thing that happened in my life, to anyone else’s or maybe everyone is facing the same issue. Father and son, their looks (maybe), their facial expressions, their thoughts, wonders are alike but unfortunately not. Some father, behave rather strange to their children and some doesn’t hold the resposibilities of taking care of them due to workloads. On the other face, their children are fond of being conspicuous.

Mother, who plays an important role in taking care of the children are probably the most caring parent in the family. I am not saying that father doesn’t know how to take care of their children. It’s because a male really doesn’t know how to utilize their time or money. That’s nature.

The Line

I still remember my primary school days when my father used to drove me to school every morning. I always asked for a ringgit (RM) for some pocket money (shyly). To no extend, he grabbed some coins from his pocket and gave it to me. There is not much conversation in between. Just one or two sentences, thats it!

“Pa, I want a dollar” said me.
“Oh, no coins.” said pa and took RM10 note / RM5 note.

“Pa, come pick me at 12.45PM” said me.
“Ha?” said pa.
“12.45PM , don’t be late!” said me.
… And he arrived at 1.10PM…

And always, he used the roti van to pick me up / drove me off school. My family is doing hardware business, so roti van is our daily bread to deliver goods anywhere either locally or for exporting purposes. On that time, I was a bit embarrased riding a roti van to school. Man, I need a car like others do. Well, I get used to it though. We barely talk about ourselves nor discussed things around at that time. But I know my father is a straight and honest person. He just don’t know how to express himself.

Things goes around comes around. During my secondary year, it’s the same as the primary year until my college year I decided to take my own ride to school. The short roti van again. HAHA. But not all the times since I am able to drive, I always borrowed the car from my sister. A bit nervous at the round-abouts but I’m steady. I believe some of my friends ever sat my car with no nags or complaints at all cuz’ I’m professional.

After college studies, I helped out my father in delivering goods for a period of time. Although the job is quite boring but I feel comfortable and easy since this is our family business. And that was the chance where we start to know each other better and care one another. Sometimes I see my father is quite tired to do the jobs but I know he is stubborn and strong. He is a grandfather already and yet still work so hard for the family without any anxiety.

Now that I am working in Singapore and I felt our family business is moving at a slow pace. A lot of difference compared to the infrastructure and environment between Kuching and Singapore. A lot to learn here in Singapore but quite hetic as well. Sometimes my father warned me to be careful with my wallet due to the loose security nowadays. I appreciate that actually.

Another Faith

It all begun when I got baptised and was urgently looking for a god-father (where it’s compulsory to have one or a spouse / sponsors in Catholic Regime). Pooof! It appears to be my secondary school friend whom I still get into contact during the college days. Our age is more or less the same or 1 year difference; perhaps it’s god will and I never expect that of getting a young god-father. lol. But this god-father is a bit ‘funny’ and I think there should be humours between the two giminis.

Conclude

A lot of fathers out there (in big cities), especially in Asia countries have the issue of ignoring their children and doesn’t have the time for them. Sometimes not even a word or even face off with one another. But I say goodwill could loose these consequences, or maybe spending more time with the family to tighten the relationship, do not mis-behave nor too stubborn, be more than utterly original and not too conservative. No one is better than someone special near you in this life.