I am never a ‘lover’ nor a ‘buffer’ (neutral it sounds) and non of any of my experience explained this but it just came into mind that prevalence is essential to deal with idealism. Not a father yet but I think kids these days are exposed to all sorts of influences albeit abundant technologies that were part of their cognitive that’s present. My earnest times were in the 90s’ where parents were formidable of their children’s act in schools, tuition centers, and befriended individuals. I was easily mugged with trends and schemer around but still prefer to be a dingbat. It was never easy when you’re being pressurize with results, parents and revere. No means No and if vouchsafe still, the room’s limited.
Today, we’re talking about teen’s defiance and their proximity level of socials, that should extra highlights be given to them in their circles? Likewise, children also possess freedom of speech like the adults but forby on certain consensus. Say, pornography. Ever since pornography surfaced the internet back in the 90s’, issues of parents concerning their children’s activity were preserved and monitored very closely but still possessed threats on their sex perception and children attempting palindrome were part of the challenge as well. Despite the fact that some children below 12 were curious about human bodies, it is undeniable hard to evaluate their intentions if they don’t speak out, instead of looking for answers themselves.
I’ve got some perfidious example (my epoch) back when I was 15, when sex knowledge was merely elusive and vague but would love to find out more of it. I accidentally found some disc in the wardrobe of my uncle’s room and watched it. Some orgy scenes, seductions and amychesis. The worse thing was I watched it with my cousins (aged 7 and another aged 5) which they found it disconcert with part of their hands covering their eyes. Well, I did asked them to dismiss that session and eventually I stopped it after 5 minutes, being anxious that I might inflict them in any means. Well, forgive me father for I had sinned but pardon of that, I was still a buddhist. Oops… but that’s true from the heart. Another example was being retard of distributing those disc around, sharing it with my fellow friends, not knowing what consequences that we might faced, being farce.
After all, Malaysia’s sex education were discreetly enclosed. But ideally, Singapore’s open sex education served better understanding, and perceiving actions but too compelling could arouse problem and therefore, encapsulating disciplinary actions (from superior) on palliate. Neutral mindset should blends well. While one’s capricious are often a debate when crime rates in Malaysia soared, probability goes to the social security, and the scarce enforcement. Future looks bleak if authorities are not taking any serious actions against. We have the right move to build a healthier society but not with guile, mind you.
Back to our topic, should parents endow their kids to fulfill their needs? 21st Century is unlike 20th Century as the realm of Portable Digital Device (PDD) scattered across the globe, what’s more to say that with WI-FI connectivity reachable within radius? Personally, I have no oblique to intensify this but sad to say, today’s society is way too dependent and amplifying on digital mediums, somewhat explicit. Should parents take a big leap on speculating children’s every move? The answer is yes. Domination is the key. As traditional means lean on rigorous family values albeit realization plays part of the role in between. Civilized? You can say that. Like we said earlier, building a healthy community not just about restraining them but partially being liberate on time handling; likewise, 14 hours (7days) of weekly freedom (outdoor activities etc.) should cope well with you and your kids.
As online material gets tricky (some unforeseen circumstances), parents should also implement the right systems to monitor children’s dos and don’ts, crucial among those aged from 8-18 as insurgency might roll out and as well, their eagerness during puberty. Understanding tits of technology could eliminate grumps later on and therefore, parents are the exact role model of their children. Monitoring activities such as tracking phone calls and peripherals might agitate some but from a parent’s point of view, those are the needs towards ‘house cleaning’. Speak of peripherals, computers came into mind. Operating System (O.S, a.k.a. Computer Platform, i.e. Microsoft Windows XP, Vista, MAC OS X etc..) these days came along with improved security abd build-in parental controls (approve or disapprove which program to use or not to) which are much easier to use and control as compared to it’s predecessors. Some third party programs that I came across the magazines and internet recommends are Crayon Crawler (safe browser for kids), Safe Eyes (monitor their social networks like facebook, friendster), and some list here from the software review. Even my boss requested help of his home PC installed with these fuzzy monitoring software, just to be sure that constant rules roll in for the sake of their children’s discipline.
Young people below 18 years old, if you’re reading this, I urge you to be prudent of your acts before complying. It’s never too late to retract rather than to repent. Think wise before you do. Think of your financial, her’s and your family concerns, most importantly, you’re not a copy and paste machine but simply, a mortal with a heart and brain.